After more than seven years of working with engaged couples through our church and also experiencing the challenges of the early years of marriage ourselves, this topic is near and dear to our hearts. Ephesians 5:22-25, 28, 33 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. A friendship with an angry man can be damaging enough, but the terrible scourge of abusive marriages is a stark warning to someone contemplating marriage. I learned pretty early on like the first day of marriage that serving your spouse is important. Find Someone Who is Mutually Dedicated You should be with someone who is equally devoted to the relationship. Do you still expect everyone to please you, or have you matured to the point where pleasing others brings you joy? We pray that it is a blessing for you! While Scripture commands Christian young people to obey their parents, it also commands fathers to not provoke their children to anger.
When both partners give 100%, the result is a beautiful, selfless, love-filled marriage that becomes a sanctuary for both the husband and wife. Give freely and think of others. Some of that pressure is good, because it keeps people from taking marriage too lightly. But imagine a guy who goes on some dates and listens to what various women have to say, and the kinds of things they prefer. Prepare yourself to pursue purity fiercely. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Galatians 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.Next
It is all about investing in your relationship right from the start! I look back over the course of my life and marvel at how often something I prayed for, yearned for, waited for, cried for finally came to fruition—but not a moment too soon. Learn to manage your money now will literally lower your cortisol level in the future and provide both you and your partner a more stress free marriage. Establishing a pattern for who does what early on will lead to less unspoken tension that emerges when one spouse feels overly burdened with tasks. Segal offers four helpful ways to prepare us to develop Godly relationships that will last: 1. Marriage is intended to be the most intimate relationship, so we should try to find someone like-minded who we can share our deepest thoughts and dreams with. During our long drives, we would ask questions from the book.Next
Working out at the gym a few times a week together? It is an amazing tool, easy to use and free! Too often we place our love, or desire in finding the right person before God. It is easy to assume that in a God given marriage there are no fights, arguments, or issues. Maybe big gathering make you uncomfortable. Discuss with your future spouse where you are currently at financially and where you want to be. And then started the whole process over with someone else.Next
No one likes to be wrong, but we are all human and mess up. Romantic relationships and marriage bring all sorts of conflict along with them. Similar to a marriage class, you could even start going to counseling together. How can we choose our future mate wisely? Also, be sure to check out for more insights. Then again, anything can happen in life, and eventually, people just find their true love somewhere. You pay your own bills, buy whatever you want, and do whatever you want.Next
With teamwork and careful planning, however, he explained that they were able to buy and pay for their first home. Christ comes before all other relationships. More than just writing your goal down though, you need a plan to accomplish it! So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. It is important to study the biblical instructions that you will be agreeing to in marriage. One of the best marriage classes out there can be done online. If you have any debt — establish a plan now to get rid of it and, of course, determine a savings plan. As I mentioned before, I sought input from the other Divas and their advice was right on! So you want to tie the knot—great! If you have not yet married or even chosen a partner, you have, by far, the most power to affect your eventual likelihood of divorce.Next
With that being said, here are ten important ways you can start preparing for marriage. She was a wonderful woman who I loved but from the beginning I realized and knew we unevenly yoked spiritually! Marriage is a calling; a holy covenant between God, your spouse, and yourself. They throw away every friendship, family relationship, and romantic relationship that they have been blessed with because they are too proud to ever be wrong. I asked our children to keep high school relationships to a friendship level, and they honored that. Establishing self-discipline habits as a single adult can bring great rewards in your future marriage. This constant emotional roller coaster ride of arguments and apologies is definitely unhealthy. First, what is the marriage you hope to have? Almost all the questions apply to any couple of any spiritual belief! Get rid of selfishness When you are single, all you have to think about is yourself.Next
But it was important to us that the son or daughter not be passive about church relationships. When you are young, poor, and married, eating in means a lot more money in your pocket for other things. I'm lucky I am able to type, due to the bulging blisters that even made my neighbor wince. I have been following you divas for months…since I got engaged. Learn to manage your money Money is one of the biggest things that couples argue about.Next