They may not live on their own yet. Crazy chick · 24 Oct 2017 I am 28 and my boyfriend of a year is 41. He is everything I never expected. Power He inevitably has a few years on you — professionally and personally. Anonymous · 11 Aug 2006i met a man 29 years younger than me , both of us think the gap is too big , but we are still very interested in each other, find each other attractive , lots of chemistry etc. We might think that certain concrete markers of adulthood — a prestigious job; a working knowledge of personal finance; properly assembled Ikea furniture —signify a related degree of emotional maturity.Next
I'm 37 We had an amazing time! Straighttalker · 08 Apr 2009 It depends on what you both want out of the relationship. My aunt was married to a man 20 years her senior and he doted on her. Have you binged any shows lately? I love him, and I've come to realize that it doesn't matter what the people around us think, we love each other. The 8-year rule states that you shouldn't date anyone outside of an 8-year age range. I would say, make sure this doesn't become a source of division between you. Okay, fine, J is only four years my senior.Next
But let's be fair: There's a reason we tend to date people who are closer in age. He has never been married and he does have an older son. There's a reason we tend to date people who are closer in age. Countrytime · 13 Jun 2018 I have secretly spending time with a man friend who is 48 and I'm 32. Whether that's a mature twenty-something, an immature thirty-something, or a quirky lady living with three dudes like Jess.Next
And when he did, i guess they didn't care what kind of girl she was, so long as she would take care of him. A certain Chinese restaurant still brings back memories of another ex. Chivalry Older men are more old-school about courtship. I'm being silly about all this? However, I am saying that if you're 30 and dating someone who lives with their parents… maybe you need to reevaluate things. I wrote him a six page letter telling him exactly what I was seeing and how I felt. Quality older men feel great to me.Next
He got shocked with the age difference, but he insisted he doesn't care about that, and was getting worked up that I even thought of that. Which makes sense — in the course of 24 months, I transformed from a college senior who'd never lived on my own and subsisted primarily on bagels stolen from the school cafeteria to a financially independent adult who worked a serious job and subsisted primarily on bagels stolen from work. Both proposed but I turned them down for other reasons besides age. Again, all these ideas are based on stereotypes — primarily, that youth is one of the only valuable traits a woman possesses when dating, and that to take a pass on using it as a bargaining chip to find a more desirable mate is insane. To act like youth is an eternal state — that a person who is currently 23 and not totally sure about how to pick a good bottle of wine or operate their dishwasher, will exist in that state forever — is actively denying the facts of our own lives.Next
Now I don't know if that was him making sure I still wanted to be with him or if that was a way of trying to push me off. Ok now I know everyone is going to start shouting sexism but hey I just wanted to inject some humour on this sunny day : If you are happy and he treats you well then that is more than half the battle. I wish people would stop criticizing each other just because they don't understand or try to see it from the other view. More details about our e-mail flirtation to come on Monday! Instead of waiting for the check to come and delaying this longer, I'm ending it now. Yet my previous boyfriend was 24 when I was 30 and of course that didn't work - great at the start as there was loads of fun and frolics but as time passes and the initial flushes of romance wears off, problems due to the age difference started - he wanted and was more able to go out more often than me, he wanted to travel more whereas I had done all that, he was stressing that I should be thinking about settling down etc and he couldn't offer that so the pressures of the age difference split us up in the end. Anonymous · 29 Jul 2006im dating a guy 17 years younger then me and come up against the same attitude time and time again that its not quite normal and it wont last,we have been togethar for almost 4 years now and i mostly think of him as the sweetest thing. But what is a first date other than a test of communication between two strangers who are tossing around the idea of potentially engaging in sexual and emotional trust with the other? I know there would be weird looks and people talking, I live in a small town.Next
Seriously, she was born on the same day and same year. For this reason, being a woman with a younger partner is often viewed in a negative light. Sometimes, certain experiences or personality quirks make us have more in common with people younger or older than us — and not giving those people a shot romantically because they're not the same exact age as you is nuts. You might love his deep pockets, but with his great power comes your vulnerability. Believe it or not, him and I have a lot in common personality wise.Next
I have the same thing you do with your love…i am 38 and my lover is 60, he makes me feel a certain kind of special that no one had ever made me feel…the sex is amazing and his arms around me just feel like paradise. I also think that its the person and their personality. Please reply, would really appreciate a different perspective because mine is tainted. At first i loved my older man ge gave me things we went out. You think it, but you say nothing.